If you're headed for divorce, you've heard that divorce can be very difficult on children. If you're worried that your kids will suffer harmful psychological effects from your divorce, you may not realize it but divorce is not always that hard on children.
If you ask any family counselor, mediator or law guardian who has years of experience working with families going through divorce, you may hear some surprising views about how divorce impacts children.
We can all agree that divorce can be rough on children, but that doesn't mean that there aren't some kids who are relieved when their parents split. Often, divorce can be a much better option than forcing a child to live day in and day out in a tumultuous, deeply resentful marriage.
Break Free From the Cycle of Emotional Turmoil
When miserable couples stay married just for the kids, the children are often exposed to daily shouting matches, crying, belittling, name calling, and sometimes even violence.
Not only is this an unhealthy atmosphere, it can inflict chronic stress and anguish on a child who otherwise deserves peace and happiness.
When children live in a home that is filled with deep resentments, sadness, and hatred, it can cause long-term emotional scars, and they can lose faith in interpersonal relationships and the sanctity of marriage.
Divorce can free the parents and the children of a negative environment, offering them the peace, calm, and tranquility needed to rediscover the meaning of happiness.
Divorce can offer children the following benefits:
- A peaceful home life
- Less stress and anxiety
- Happier parents
- More quality time with each parent
- Parents who focus on the child's best interests
If you're in a high-conflict marriage, a divorce might give your kids the chance to just be kids without having to be subjected to regular arguments, and a stressful home life.
While divorced life isn't always perfect, having two peaceful homes can be much better than one filled with constant marital tension.