When divorce happens, things can seem disorienting all of a sudden. As a father, you are suddenly pressed into a role as a single parent. While handling a job and custody of your kids, you may find yourself lonely, confused, and craving affection. Even if a divorce was the best choice for you and your ex-spouse, ending a marital relationship isn’t often without difficulty. If you are a newly divorced dad, there are some things you should keep in mind.

First of all, it is important that you don’t rush back to the altar too soon. Some men discover how helpful a wife and mother was when that luxury is gone. Now, that man has to wash his own clothes, fix his own meals, care for the children, and maintain a home, all while trying to maintain a career. Taking on the roles of both parents often proves to be too much to handle, and might send you back to altar before you even know what’s happening. Yet getting married again in a rushed and harried manner is usually not a good idea. If you are looking for a new life partner, you should make rational, calculated decisions to find the woman of your dreams. In the meantime, consider hiring a housekeeper or enlisting the help of a family member to make ends meet while you juggle the roles of both parents.

While there is nothing wrong with meeting new women after you and your spouse have decided you are done, you don’t want to become desperate because of loneliness. Sometimes men are shocked at the emptiness of their home without a woman to keep them company, and want to fix this problem quickly. The Huffington Post warns that you may need some time to find yourself before rushing off to get married. Before you decide to present a new girl with a ring, take time to discover who you are and evaluate what went wrong in your first marriage. Bu using this time to figure out who you really are you may be able to make a marriage last when it is time to tie the knot again in the future.

Another mistake that is commonly committed by newly divorced fathers is the desire to sleep around. Men who suddenly find themselves single have a tendency to exercise that freedom too liberally, to their detriment and the sorrow of their children. Sometimes, too much sexual liberty can even have medical consequences. A new study shows that Herpes virus is most common among those who are divorced, separated, or widowed. Also, divorced men are often caught in difficult situations when one of their partners has an unplanned pregnancy. This may lead to a speedy and unintended marriage, and cause you to live a life that you never wanted. Single Again for Men suggests that those who are recently divorced make plans to choose one woman and avoid being the town playboy after a divorce.

The third most common mistake that is made among divorced fathers is introducing a new woman to the children too early. If you have young children, they are probably still scarred from watching your relationship with your former spouse dissolve. They may be craving motherly affection once again, but don’t fuel their hopes by introducing them to women that you aren’t sure about. Some kids may be angry to see you with a new woman, because in their heart no one will be able to replace their mother. You will want to be careful when you are introducing your children to a new woman, and explain where your relationship with this woman is at when you meet. By following these simple guidelines, you may be able to improve your relationship with your kids and eventually find love again in the future.