Are You Ready to Get Married?
Posted on Mar 21, 2012 3:22pm PDT
When you know, you know. That's what people always say anyway. If you have found the one and are ready to tie the knot, there are a few steps you have to take before you can start hearing wedding bells. Engagement can be an extremely happy time for a soon-to-be-married couple, but there is also much to think about. In the midst of picking tablecloths and ties, you must also remember the formalities of marriage that cannot be avoided.
Before you get married, you will have to file for a marriage license in the state you wish to get married. For example, in California you do not need to be a resident to get married there. You only have to apply for a marriage license in that state. Most states will require both individuals to show proof that they are not currently married. If either individual has been previously married, divorce proceedings must be complete before another marriage license can be obtained.
To apply you will also need a valid ID and depending on what county you are filing in, you may need to present a birth certificate. Another thing you need to consider when applying for your marriage license is cost. Don't make the mistake of thinking that the cake and decorations are the only things you need to pay for. The cost of a marriage license differs by county, so defer to your particular County Clerk's Office.
While this is a valid option for many people because it fits their particular circumstance, most states also do not allow for proxy marriages, which are marriages in which the bride or groom or both parties are not present but are represented by another individual. You should check with your particular state in order to find out what the law is on proxy marriages.
You may also want to consider obtaining a prenuptial agreement before your wedding date. A prenuptial agreement is a legal document agreed upon by both parties that states how property would be divided in the event of a divorce. Most couples do not like to think about a topic like divorce before their wedding even takes place because it can be depressing an even cause arguments. You and your future spouse should seriously consider this agreement so that later on down the line in the event of a divorce, the proceedings will go more smoothly.
There are a number of considerations you should make before you get married. You should definitely sit down and speak with your future spouse about things like personal finances, budgeting, community/separate property and other related issues. Make sure you cover all of your bases before the wedding date so that you can enjoy a peaceful union long after your honeymoon.